Los Angeles, California
Today in our Advanced Life Coaching group at the West Central Mental Health Center, Marlynn, our group’s facilitator, gifted us an amazing piece by Jeff Foster, entitled, “The Right Place For Life.” The short piece was exactly what I needed to help me accept the circumstances of my own now, here, where I stand. As I sat in the group earlier today, I decided that when I got home later I would engage in the “Finding Forester” exercise of using another’s writing as a starting point to finding your own voice. Unlike the character in the movie, I do not have Jeff Foster’s permission, nor his mentorship, but just the same I will attempt to use his words as a starting point to find my own on this topic of the present moment. Below is my first draft. Enjoy!
You have kissed it with your heart and soul. And now, your heart is broken. You no longer feel comfortable in your own home, not even in your own skin. Everything you have worked so hard for is falling to pieces right before your eyes. You feel like you have lost that essential something, that special keepsake of your heart that defined you, that thing that made you, “you.” It feels as though something within you is missing. Life is presenting as unfair, unkind, wrong, or even worse, life no longer feels “real” anymore. You yearn to escape, to just get away. You ache to jump back in time, to the way things used to be, -or- fast forward past NOW, to that wondrous way that things could be. You feel isolated, misunderstood, without direction and no one can help. You are convinced that no one can possibly understand your current situation because nobody else has ever stood in your shoes.
You feel as though you have arrived at the completely wrong place, at the worse possible time.
Stop. Focus on your breath. Contemplate that everything is exactly the way it is supposed to be at this point in time. How do we know things are exactly, right? Because this is exactly how things happened.
The Universe can not go “wrong.” Only our perception of what IS can be “wrong.” Our life only feels like it is going “wrong” within the confines of our own meat minds, within our own thinking.
What we tell ourselves is only our “story,” our “movie.” Step out of the movie of past and future, to scenes of “back then,” or dreams of “if when,” and instead turn and face this sacred moment, the NOW of this moment, the only true moment that exists.
Settle down and feel your own presence, right here in this sacred space, focus on the steadiness of your breath, a constant stable rhythm amidst the chaos of the world. Feel every part of your body, full of sensation, tingling, each part full of life. Feel the weight of your body, noticing how it interacts with gravity, being pulled downward toward the earth as if pulled magically from its very center. Feel the life force pulsating in your heart, observe the rise and fall of your chest. Embrace the raw life that is here, covering you, filling you, animating your every move. Focus on the vibrations in your head and the activity in your stomach. Notice how your feet contact the ground, observe the air as it flows past your nostrils. Concentrate on your ears and all the sounds occurring all around you, rising and falling.
In this awareness of the NOW, know that the next step of your journey can only be taken from here, right where you stand, in this present moment. Know that the ground under your feet, the only true ground, is ready to meet your next step. Relax in the joy of not knowing what the next step will be before it is actually taken. Trust in the knowledge that you cannot trust right now; the path shall reveal itself in its own time. Do not fret about the future. The true path ultimately will emerge, as it always has and always will. Be present. Be here. NOW.
Your energy may be low, your heart may be broken my friend, and your old aspirations may have evaporated into the ether no longer on track, but luxuriate in the knowing that you’re always in the right place for life. Today it is here. NOW.